Showing posts with label October. Show all posts
Showing posts with label October. Show all posts
Saturday, August 19, 2017
October 15th
Today, October 15th is National Day of Remembrance for Pregnancy and Infant loss.
This includes all babies who have died because of miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or any other infant death.
This includes all babies who have died because of miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or any other infant death.
I have shared my story of loss before and I will continue to share it every October 15th because it is a reminder to me (and hopefully others) about God's love & faithfulness.
It reminds me that God has a plan for my life (and yours!) and that HIS plan is better than my plan - Always.
I had 2 miscarriages before I had Kate.
Ectopic Pregnancy at 6 weeks on October 22, 2002 (due date June 23, 2003)
Miscarriage at 10 weeks D&C on October 25, 2005 (due date May 26, 2006)
I still think about them & wonder.
Were they a boy or a girl?
I could have a 12.5 year old and an 9.5 year old.
But then I wouldn't have my Kate, Claire or Luke.
I could have a 12.5 year old and an 9.5 year old.
But then I wouldn't have my Kate, Claire or Luke.
God has a plan. His timing is perfect. Trust in Him.
This is what would remind myself during my saddest days.
In the process of having miscarriages & sharing about them, I have met many, many women who have lost their sons and daughters. I have friends, family & co workers who have had miscarriages. I have several friends who have lost their babies at full term, days & months after having them. I can't imagine the pain they have suffered.
The Lord has broken my heart for families who have to endured these types of losses. I don't fully know the pain these families have gone through, but I have felt a small fraction of it.
In the process of having miscarriages & sharing about them, I have met many, many women who have lost their sons and daughters. I have friends, family & co workers who have had miscarriages. I have several friends who have lost their babies at full term, days & months after having them. I can't imagine the pain they have suffered.
The Lord has broken my heart for families who have to endured these types of losses. I don't fully know the pain these families have gone through, but I have felt a small fraction of it.
This is one of the reasons I felt called in 2008 to become a volunteer photographer for Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep 7 years ago. I cannot take away the pain of someone's loss, but I can give them something to remember their child by. You can read about my journey to become a volunteer with them HERE.
For those of you who are new to my blog or haven't read it before, here is my story of loss:
(I post this every October 15th)
Kevin and I got married on August 24, 2002. We wanted to wait 3-4 years to have kids. I was on the pill and took it religiously at the same time every day. Imagine my surprise when I found out I was pregnant 2 months after we got married. We had always wanted kids, just not so soon after getting married. I went to the doctor & they gave me a due date of June 23, 2003. I was FREAKING out & couldn't believe I was pregnant. This pregnancy was our "honeymoon baby". Apparently I got pregnant on our honeymoon.
For those of you who are new to my blog or haven't read it before, here is my story of loss:
(I post this every October 15th)
Kevin and I got married on August 24, 2002. We wanted to wait 3-4 years to have kids. I was on the pill and took it religiously at the same time every day. Imagine my surprise when I found out I was pregnant 2 months after we got married. We had always wanted kids, just not so soon after getting married. I went to the doctor & they gave me a due date of June 23, 2003. I was FREAKING out & couldn't believe I was pregnant. This pregnancy was our "honeymoon baby". Apparently I got pregnant on our honeymoon.
Unfortunately, a few days after I found out I was pregnant in October of 2002, I woke up to an intense pain on my left side & when I went to the bathroom I was massively bleeding & then I passed out. Kevin rushed in and woke me up & we rushed to my doctor & after some tests, he informed me that I was having an ectopic pregnancy & that I had to go immediately to the hospital for emergency surgery because the condition was life threatening for me.
So, that Tuesday night in late October, I was rushed to the hospital for surgery. Luckily, I have one of the best doctors in the area & he was able to save my left fallopian tube (it was already starting to rupture). I am glad that I was unaware of how serious ectopic pregnancies can be. I didn't realize I could have died if my tube ruptured. Even though my doctor saved my fallopian tube (and my life!), I always wondered how this would effect my ability to get pregnant & have kids. One of my biggest dreams was to be a mommy & for the next few years I wondered if that would ever happen.
Fast forward to the summer of 2005.
This is when we decided to start "trying". We got lucky & I got pregnant the 2nd month after we started trying. I was due May 26, 2006. Kevin and I were thrilled. I couldn't wait to have a baby & be a mommy. I was relieved that the ectopic pregnancy didn't effect my ability to get pregnant. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I went in for blood work to make sure my numbers were doubling. My dr called and told me my progesterone was low & I needed to be on progesterone suppositories 2 times a day. Let me tell, you , those are NOT fun. Nasty.
My pregnancy was progressing, at 6 weeks the nausea hit big time & I was throwing up 2-3 times a day. I was miserable, but it was worth it. We had our first ultrasound at almost 6 weeks to make sure the baby was in my uterus and not my tube. The baby was in my uterus & I scheduled another appt at 8 weeks for the heartbeat check. The 8 week ultra sound was no so great. There was a heart beat, but it was very low & took my doctor a long time to find it. He said I needed to come back in a week for another heartbeat check. At that appointment, there was still a slow heartbeat, but the baby was not growing on track & was only measuring 7 weeks. My doctor warned us not to be too optimistic, but I still had really bad morning sickness and was getting sick a few times a day. I thought that was a good sign. I had to go in again at 10 weeks for another heartbeat & growth check. At the 10 week appointment, the heart had stopped beating.
We had lost the baby & my doctor scheduled me in for a D&C that night.
It was a Tuesday night in late October, just like 3 years before.
As I walked into the hospital for surgery, I felt like I was on Groundhog Day. Another surgery to remove another baby from my body that didn't make it. After my D&C, I was going through the motions of life. We were told to wait 3 cycles before we could try again so that my body could heal. Those were 3 very long, hard & dark months for me. I was numb. My 2nd miscarriage hit me so much harder than my first one. I was mad at God for taking this baby from us. It took me about 6 months to process it.
During that time, I had a lot of support from family & friends and for that, I am thankful.
I am thankful to my awesome & supportive husband who would hold me as I cried many nights mourning our loss wondering if I would ever have a baby. I would cry myself to sleep whenever a friend told me they were pregnant. I was truly happy for them, but SO sad for me. It was just another reminder of what I didn't have. I am thankful to our pastor who helped me process some of my feelings & emotions during the months after our loss.
I am thankful to my mom who encouraged me during this time & gave me hope (she had 4 losses in between me & my younger sister including an ectopic & a placenta separation at 21 weeks).
I am thankful for my best friend AK. She had 2 miscarriages around the same time I did. I was able to call her & cry with someone who was going through the same thing I was. She understood my pain.
I am thankful to my dear friend Lorie who had suffered 2 losses. She shared her prayer journal with me & held me up in prayer when I was too sad to pray for myself. After we good the go ahead to start trying again, it took us 3 months and we got pregnant in May of 2006. We found out on Kevin's 31st birthday, (a week before my "due date" with my 2nd miscarriage) We were excited, but I was really nervous about having another miscarriage. I was a stress case & paranoid my entire pregnancy. On January 23, 2007 , I gave birth to our beautiful Katelyn Grace.
It was a moment I will never forget & an emotion I can't put into words.
I was reminded again at the miracle of life when Claire was born 7 years ago and when Luke was born 3 years ago.
God has a plan. His timing is perfect. Trust in Him.
My kids are a reminder of that truth.
I never thought I would say this, but part of me is grateful I have been through miscarriages because it has given me compassion & a heart for those who have also suffered losses. My miscarriages caused me to cling to God & put my faith, hope & trust in HIM instead of myself.
It drew me closer to Christ as I clung to Psalm 20:4: "May He give you the desires of your heart and make your plans succeed."
God was faithful to me even though many times, I have been unfaithful to Him.
I am thankful to God who carried me through a dark time & showed me that He was there for me & He did have a plan for me & that HIS timing is better than my timing.
Because of this, when I hear of others who have suffered a loss, I mourn with them. I pray for them, I listen, I cry with them. My heart breaks with them.I can't make them feel better or make their pain go away, but I can make it less lonely.
I have learned a compassion that only comes by walking in those shoes.
I was reminded again & again that God has a purpose & a plan even when I don't understand.
What I have learned through my journey is that I was NOT alone during a time where I felt so alone and when it seemed like EVERYONE around me was pregnant, except me. God was there, carrying me through this tough time.
I discovered that intercessory prayer is powerful.
To have people praying for you when you don't have the words to pray yourself is humbling.
If you have lost a baby through miscarriage or infant death, I want to pray for you on this day of remembrance.
So, if you are one of those women who needs prayer will you please leave a comment on this post and tell me your name so that I can be praying for you?
You can comment Anonymously if you don't want to leave your name.
If you are someone struggling with infertility, I want to pray for you.
If you are waiting to adopt, you will also be lifted up in prayer.
If you want, you can include the nature of your loss, and the child's names so that we can pray for you.
If you want to leave an anonymous comment, you can do that also.
If you haven't lost a child, will you join me in praying for those who have?
I discovered that intercessory prayer is powerful.
To have people praying for you when you don't have the words to pray yourself is humbling.
If you have lost a baby through miscarriage or infant death, I want to pray for you on this day of remembrance.
So, if you are one of those women who needs prayer will you please leave a comment on this post and tell me your name so that I can be praying for you?
You can comment Anonymously if you don't want to leave your name.
If you are someone struggling with infertility, I want to pray for you.
If you are waiting to adopt, you will also be lifted up in prayer.
If you want, you can include the nature of your loss, and the child's names so that we can pray for you.
If you want to leave an anonymous comment, you can do that also.
If you haven't lost a child, will you join me in praying for those who have?
Friday, June 23, 2017
10 on 10 October 2009
10 pictures on the 10th day of the month.
{Document a snapshot of your life and find beauty
among the ordinary things of your day}
among the ordinary things of your day}
Kate's newest obsession, band-aids:
I ate WAY too many of these today:
Kevin demo-ing Boulder's dog run in our backyard which will be replaced with grass:
Taylor & Kate at Tatum's 1st birthday party:The birthday girl! Happy 1st birthday Tatum!
Remember when she was born a year ago when I first did 10 on 10?
Remember when she was born a year ago when I first did 10 on 10?
A screen shot of my laptop. My first sale!
I sold my first card design today in my etsy shop, MKL Designs!
Monday, May 15, 2017
October love list checking off the weekend
better late than never to throw this list out there. we are in the last week of October, so I figured I can give myself a little leeway of overflow into November, because November is just as amazing as October.
1. visit the Dallas arboretum // oh this place is magical. the pumpkins, the flowers, the crisp air.. everything about this place just makes you fall in love with this time of year even more. we visited the arboretum over the weekend with my niece and nephew and the grandparents and had just the best time. the best time of year to visit this place is in the fall.
2. visit the Texas State Fair // its been YEARS since I've been to the state fair, and after taking the girls this year I think we are safe to say that we will go back every year! they loved every minute of it and for that reason alone we will be going back. I can hardly imagine having a 7 month old baby BOY tagging along next year!!
3. enjoy 800 of my favorite lattes before they are gone for the season // because why the heck not.
4. pumpkin patching // as much as we can in 31 days.
5. pick the perfect pumpkin // we made our way to the pumpkin patch again this weekend. I love watching the girls just run up and down the hay mazes and rolling the pumpkins and finally we picked the perfect one to take home and carve.
6. carving the perfect pumpkin // Jordan takes this. last year with the twins was so much fun and after a little bit of a clean freak out over the slime, they finally enjoyed it!
7. roast pumpkin seeds // me and Jo love love LOVE roasted pumpkin seeds. after we carve our perfect pumpkin we will totally be making some of these to snack on.
8. have a picnic dinner // now that the weather has cooled off a bit, its so much easier to enjoy being outside without being swarmed by mosquitos or sweating into your meal. we checked this one off the bucket list this weekend- I packed dinner for the girls from home and me and Jordan enjoyed a Friday special (BOGO burgers) at Market Street while they played. $2 glasses of wine and $4 beers.. my pregnant (burgers) and non-pregnant (WINE) self really appreciates this kind of dinner.
8. watch a movie on the patio // again.. because the weather is getting to be absolutely perfect. maybe something like Its the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown for the kiddos and NOTHING scary for me and the hubby. we have become the biggest wimps.
9. SOUP // one of THE best parts about this time of year is the toasty comfort of delicious food. soup is my foodie love language. I could write a book with the amount of soup recipes I have made and created. this taco soup is a crock pot favorite. actually anything in my crock pot is a favorite:) this spinach + mushroom tortellini soup is on my list to be one of the first I make and my favorite potato soup will find its way back into the regular dinner rotation. also. two words: bread.bowl.
10. trick or treat // I'm so excited about this year's costume!! we have so many fun dress up opportunities coming up in the next week (can you believe halloween is in ONE week??!). we have a halloween birthday party on Saturday with costumes and all.. going to a neighborhood halloween trunk or treat celebration on Sunday and then Monday we are getting the supper club + kiddos together for one big trick or treat celebration!
its been the best month so far.. and we still have so much to do!
its been the best month so far.. and we still have so much to do!
Friday, May 5, 2017
10 on 10 October 2013
10 pictures on the 10th day of the month!
{Document a snapshot of your life & find beauty among the ordinary things in your day!}
{Document a snapshot of your life & find beauty among the ordinary things in your day!}
Five years ago on October 10, 2008, I participated with 10 on 10 for the very first time.
It was super small & only a handful of people even knew about it.
My blog was only 2 months old and I thought it was such a fun idea to document my day every hour for 10 hours. My little Claire Bear was only 1 month old.
Since that very first time I did 10 on 10, I was hooked.
For the past FIVE years, every month, I have documented the 10th day of the month.
I haven't missed a month yet!!! I look forward to the 10th every month!
Today, I looked back on all 5 years of 10 on 10 that I posted.
I was so fun to see how our family has grown over the past 5 years via 10 on 10.
Thank you Rebekah for creating such a fun project!
If you haven't joined in, I encourage you to!
Here is a snapshot of our day.
It has been a CRAZY week.
Busy, busy, busy.
I was thankful for a slow(er) day today & being able to look at it through the lens of my camera.
This morning started off CRAY-CRAY with Claire having a meltdown of epic proportions.
The first pic I was able to take was at 8 am in my school parking lot.
Today was the first day I have worn boots this season.
Leaves on the ground, wearing boots & a scarf.
Hooray for Fall! 
My students made Review Posters today.
I love Thursdays. It is my short day. I am done teaching at 11:15. I stay at school until noon and then meet my mother in law at our house so Luke can nap from noon -2:00 (until we go pick up Kate from school).
It is a glorious 2 hours of silence in my house.
I have lunch...today was Trader Joe's pumpkin granola & Greek Yogurt. Yum.
Lots of pink flowers on my kitchen table. I hosted a baby shower on Sunday for my friend Dana (which I need to blog...maybe tomorrow!) & I am loving having all the pink in my house. Pink is my favorite color.
Waiting in the school pick up line.
Lukey Guy...dragging his sisters pink popper.
There you have it. Another 10th of the month.
What they say is true....the days are long, but the years are short.
So glad I have documented at least one day a month for the past 5 years.*****************************************
And, as a reminder, my 3rd Annual Crock-tober Linky is up!
You can link up your favorite Crock Pot Recipes all month long.
There is also a Crock Pot Giveaway going on the same post!
The link up and giveaway closes on October 31st.
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