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Showing posts with label I. Show all posts

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Reason 265 why I love my husband


...he fixes things for me. After analyzing routers, modems, browsers, ISPs [by the way, I have no idea what any of these things are] he saved the day.

It was the stupid modem from the internet company. I KNEW it was suspicious when the [very late] dude brought it in.

So my loving hubby called them, stood in line, and demanded that they switch ours out. And voila~it works!!

He's a keeper, I tell you. And now onto some catch up posts...
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Wednesday, June 21, 2017

What have I done



I have a date with my first 26.2 mile run on October 5, 2008. No backing out now, folks. I officially paid and signed my life away on the waiver. Basically I had to promise to train and not die, so we'll see how that goes.

And all of a sudden this full marathon is a real thing and very, very scary. I guess this means I need to start running again, huh? :) My 'too stressed, too busy, too cold' excuse has to give sometime.

I'm going to run my first full marathon!!
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Friday, June 16, 2017

Things I learned selling Girl Scout Cookies


As much as we all love the online community (even me...or maybe especially me), sometimes it is important to put down the mouse and actually touch base with the people around you.

In 2012 I wrote a post on how Halloween, if done right, is actually a wonderful community building opportunity. And this year was no less spectacular. Our weather here this past Halloween was AMAZING and my neighbors were out in force; having front-yard gatherings and hanging out on their front porch to chat with trick-or-treaters. It took us forever to get around the neighborhood because we stopped to chat with everyone as we went around.

Enter Girl Scout cookies sales.

I am going to have to add door to door Girl Scout cookie sales to my list of awesome community building activities. (Although I wonder if we would have had such a great experience trying to sell a product that was a little less universally loved).

Through pounding the pavement with my six year old Daisy Scout, I met a whole slew of new neighbors (one's that don't typically have their doors open at Halloween). We met lots of lovely people along the way, but the following four stood out:

1. I finally learned the name of the neighbor on the corner at the bottom of our street. We have lived here for almost 6 years and that was the one house where we had never seen or met the occupants. As it turns out, they have lived there for decades and know our across the street neighbors well (from when their kids grew up together). I had always wondered who lived in that house and now, not only do I know their names, but will be able to interact with them if I ever see them.

2. My girls and I discovered that living less than a block away is a lovely homeschooling family with kids their same age. Not only that, but as it turns out, we belong to the same online community group (online is great, but in person is AWESOME). And here they have been living around the corner from us for years, but if we had never stepped out the door we might not have known. So, we exchanged information and talked about going to the neighborhood park together sometime.

3. I found out that a house a few blocks down is home to a lovely lady, whose husband happens to put in hardwood flooring. As it happens, we have been looking to put hardwood flooring in our house (AFTER my last child potty trains, of course.) Now I have the opportunity to support someone in my own local community, which is one of my favorite things to do.

4. As we were wrapping up sales for the night, I stopped at a house across the street from ours.  I was invited to come in and sit down while our kids played since it had been a while since we had seen each other. We then had the opportunity to have a really deep heart to heart about some things that were challenging her.

Lastly, selling to my friends and family forced us to take the time to deliver the cookies and stop and visit for awhile. In the last week we have sat down with friends we haven't seen in months, family we rarely take the time to visit and neighbors who typically only get the acknowledgement wave when we are leaving or returning to the house.



photograph by Talia Perea


The 21st century finds us so insulated and isolated on our own busy islands, that we forget that there are families right next door. Families who appearances might suggest are picture perfect, may not be if you take the time to listen. Everyone needs support, and it is easy to miss those who project certain images. It is important to put the computer down from time to time and really listen to real people.

Whether it is selling cookies, or just making the excuse to make the rounds, we all need to remember that face to face interactions can never be replaced with online communities. They both have their time and place. Online is easier because we can do it on our time, in our environment, under our control, but in order to build a strong, interconnected community, we need to nurture the face to face as well.

Sure we sold enough boxes that we may actually meet my daughter's sales goal, but more importantly, I feel like I plugged in to the people in my community in a very real way. That, to me, is worth more than any money in the world.....well, maybe not worth Thin Mints dipped in coffee, but what can I say? I am an addict.
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Sunday, June 4, 2017

Could I go to jail for this


I wonder if applying leg warmers to your dog counts as animal cruelty? Hmmmm, something to ponder. Please observe.

My loving mother sent us an Easter care package and realized once she shipped it up to The Great North that the contents were a little biased towards the canine member of our family. Nate and I got a bag of M&Ms and an unopened Golf Digest addressed to my father---hope you didn't want to read your April issue, Dad.

The rest of the items were for our little spoiled fur baby. I'm frightened to see how she handles her first grandchild, aren't you? We might not even get M&Ms at that point. Probably just outdated copies of magazines will suffice.

One of Henry's pressies was inspired by four year old me, seen here:

Pay no attention to my tree-decorating skillz, nor my disgustingly sweet Sleeping Beauty pose. Even my pimped out pink leotard does not deserve the spotlight here....but instead, my rocking purple leg warmers are the point of interest.

Henry is bringing the 80's back, as you can see:
one legged warmer

I know what you are thinking. Argyle leg warmers for a dog? In April? The answer is 'Oh heck, yes' when said dog is this stinking cute:
strutting

stoner?

Not only did he get leg warmers, but a new Easter bandanna, too. As if he weren't borderline gay already...
his new attire

"I want no part in this, woman. Take these absurdities away from me at once!"
stretch armstrong


"Maybe if I shake with enough brute force they will shoot off my arms in one freeing motion?"
aggressive shake.

"Mother, please. I'm being a good boy right now. But I might eat your face off soon if you don't stop laughing."
shake

"Perhaps you didn't hear me?"
more hank


"And now you make me stay with a freaking treat on my paw? The horror! I could not hold more contempt for you right now."
totally pissed at us.


"Just give me my new fox from Missouri and I'll forgive you."
henry loves The Fox
All better now.

Until I force the warmers on him again just to see him prance around, avoiding any bend of his knees.

Cute, right? And I'll go ahead and say that Henry secretly loved the warmers but only pretended to hate me for them. In fact, I still got my face licked multiple times this day so it can't be so bad.

More weekend fun to come...stay tuned.
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That time I tried to Re do my Blog Layout


So, it turns out I am not a Blog Designer. 
I tried to re-do the layout/format of my blog and guess what?
I have no idea what I am doing. 
Ha!
Right now, my header is totally gone. I have no idea where it went.
Which is fine since it was 2 years old and Luke wasn't even in it :)

I have always had someone design my blog layout for me, I don't know why I thought I could do it on my own.
Seriously......what was I thinking? 

I can plan parties, take photos & make party invites and teach 140 middle school kids math each day.

But do a blog design? NO. 

That's what I can an epic FAIL.

So, after spending several hours the past few days trying to do the layout/graphics on my own, I gave up and hired someone to do it :)
 
It should be done by this weekend, so thanks for being patient and bearing with me while I had it on and off private over the past 2 days while I was figuring out stuff.

I got a ton of emails about people freaking out that it was private because they needed some recipes, printables, etc.....so don't worry,  I won't put it back on private, but try and look past all the random layout/mish mash/no header that I have going on right now.

You will just have to deal with the un-finished layout for another day or so :)

New layout or not, I'll be back tomorrow with my first 10 on 10 for 2014!

Thank you for your patience!

xoxo, 
Mel
(Wife, Mom & Teacher. But NOT a blog designer.)
P.S. I can't sing either. I am the WORST. 

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Monday, May 29, 2017

Large Family Laundry Strategies – How I Keep 9 Kids Clean and Why That’s Valuable


  • About our laundry facility
  • The frequency that I do laundry
  • Stain/soil removing strategies
  • Time-saving strategies
  • A Mistake-saving strategy
  • Our strategy for last minute cleaning in public
  • The value of overall cleanliness for kids

People notice when a large family’s kids are clean and well-cared for – and they notice when they’re not.  Some large families just don’t clean their kids up before going out in to public, and this really causes other people who are watching and making judgments about large families to frown and be critical.  Not that we are obsessed with people-pleasing, not at all, but I believe that many large families would experience more of the smiles and compliments they desire instead of criticism and sarcasm from people if they would simply take time to present their kids clean.  

It’s a sad but understandable fact I suppose.  I’ve personally noticed the difference in others responses to me when I’m in public with clean kids, vs. when I’m in public with not-so-clean ones for varying normal reasons.  *chuckle* I always strive to have the kids clean before we go out, but sometimes I’ve had to scoop up all the kids from the back yard to take one kiddo to the doctor suddenly, and they look like they’ve been having fun in the dirt, which they have been – but they are not their shiniest right then for by people who don’t know us.  *chuckle*  Our family of 11 has become known at places where we frequently shop, and smiles, friendliness, and clean kids does effect our reputation, and therefore our effectiveness in having a witness for the Lordour ability to draw others to us, and entice them to wonder what makes us different from the rest of the world. What makes us smile...

People have asked for my tips for doing laundry for so many kids, I suppose thinking that if clothes can experience all that they do with 9 kids and still be clean, surely there are some valuable tips to be had!   *laugh*  One friend asked out of curiosity, “So… does your washing machine just run all the time?”  No. *smile*  Not at all!  With a good plan and a few good cleaning strategies, laundry and clean kids can be accomplished fairly easily.  So I thought I’d take time to share my simple yet ON PURPOSE strategies with you.


Facility – 

Here is a photo of our small laundry room.  So far it’s perfectly adequate for the 11 of us, and simply but purposefully supplied. 



Our front-loader washing machine is energy-efficient, and easier on the clothes than the top-loader we used to have was as it does not pull the clothes around but rather tosses the clothes as it washes them.  It also uses far less water than our top-loader did.  We chose the largest capacity washer we could fit in our laundry room and was available to us, so we can fit large loads in every time.  And the front-loader gets our clothes very clean. 


Frequency – 

So here's my plan of attack. *smile* I do 2 loads of laundry, 4 days a week: Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday.  I gather our 2 laundry hampers in the house (one in our master closet and one in the children's closet) and sort all of those clothes into two piles, white and colors.  Over the course of the morning I rotate those through the washer and dryer, and then two of our children fold one basket each and put those clothes away for us.  

It's also valuable to recognize that we as moms can greatly effect the amount of laundry our children produce. For example, my doing laundry only 4 days a week at 2 loads per day is also manageable because our kids wear only one outfit per day (unless there’s a genuine need for another one).  We do not allow multiple outfits just because it strikes someone’s fancy.  *wink* *smile* This would double or triple our laundry quantity, and waste our time, energy, and finances (by using a lot more laundry detergent and fabric softener needlessly). 



Stain & Soil Removing Strategies

- I use detergent from Costco because it works great and is inexpensive per load (but not Costco’s Kirkland Signature brand - that doesn't clean well enough for me) – I use a few different brands: All, Clear, and Gain. However I don't use Tide as it wears clothing out fast (I suppose it works so hard on stains that it actually removes color after just a few washes, and breaks down fabric so that it looks thread-bare and worn-out really fast in my experience).

- I use Downy fabric softener, also from Costco, because it smells so nice and fresh (but not the Kirkland Signature brand of softener as that just doesn’t seem to work) and is the best price I have found for large quantities.  I’ve often had people tell me that our clothes and kids always smell so nice!  And my husband’s co-workers in his office have commented in the past that his clothes always smell so nice.  *smile*  It’s worth the very minimal cost to us.

- I use Shout spray for most really noticeable dirt:  from the yard, from baby spit-up, dirty sheets, food on clothes - general things I want to be sure to get out.  I spray it and then let it sit in a white dish tub on top of my dryer while I sort the rest of the laundry; if it's more deeply dirty then I'll let it sit with the stain remover on it while I wash a load of whites, for example, and then wash that colored item next with the colored clothes next.  So sometimes stained items sit for about an hour before going in to the wash.  I wash them on the temperature appropriate for each item (whites in warm - unless there's a stain to remove then it gets cold; colors always in cold).

- For really bad stains I use a spray called Zout (I get it at Wal-Mart) for blood, red sauce, diaper stains, chocolate, ink, food grease.  I spray it and let it sit for at least an hour.  My mom has a friend who uses Zout at her bed and breakfasts and she claims that it takes out everything.  Then I wash those items in cold always, as warm/hot will set the stain.

- When there is a deeper stain like blood I treat asap.  I’ll strip that shirt off of the child, treat the stain and drop the shirt in to a dish tub on top of the dryer, and give them a new shirt.  I just let the treated shirt sit in the dish tub in our laundry room until I do laundry again (every other day), and it pretty much always comes out if I got it treated right away, and usually even if I wasn't.

- I also love Tide Pens.  I carry them in our van and keep one handy at home!  If one of the children spills something really noticeable like red sauce during a meal then I try to treat it real quick right then and I don't worry about washing it until next time I do laundry and it comes it beautifully because it had been treated immediately. *smile* My sister has even done this for a few guests at her restaurant (she’s was a waitress) when they’ve spilled something like wine, and it’s taken the stain right out.  Amazing. 

- I buy bleach pens (from the grocery store) for treating small stains that just need bleaching, or I couldn't get out of white items, or on items that are a light enough color where even if the color is removed from the garment it’ll still look better than having a black ink mark there.  Bleach pens (they have a gel bleach in them) are nice because they control the bleach and don’t let it go where I don't want it to on a clothing item. And it can't splash onto me while I'm working. 

- I use diluted liquid bleach (mixed 1:1) in a spray bottle for larger items that need bleaching (white tee-shirts, little girls’ stretch pants that have been in the yard, sometimes sheets).  Once I’ve accumulated 3-4 items that need bleaching then I’ll wash a load of those together to prevent bleach from transferring to items that I don't want it on.  I let bleach from either the pen or the spray bottle sit for a few minutes while I baby sit it (*chuckle* - can't leave it unattended with kids around) and so that it doesn't "eat" the fabric due to being left on there too long, and then I throw those items into the wash as a group, bleached items together.


Time-Saving Strategies

- I have a white, zipping mesh laundry bag (12x18-inches or so) for tiny or delicate items, so that they don’t get lost or pulled out of shape (i.e. bras, camisoles’, nylons).  This also helps me identify these items from the wash when the load is done so that I don’t accidentally put them into the dryer, but rather hang them to dry.

- Feather down items (our kids’ twin comforters, my down vest, down pillows) do not have to be taken to the dry cleaners! *beam* My mom and I have washed items like this for many years.  *smile* My mother taught me this, and for years I’ve been enjoying washing down.  I wash the item on cold, sometimes on delicate, with half the usual detergent amount, and no fabric softener.  Then I put the items into the dryer on low heat for 2 hours, and with 3-5 dryer balls or tennis balls.  This punches the laundry as it tumbles, fluffing-up the feathers. 

- Many unusual things can be put in to the washing machine that people might not usually clean there:  tennis shoes, canvas lunch coolers, car seat covers, pot holders, men’s hats (although these keep their shape better – which is important to my Honey – washed in the dishwasher)…then I let those air dry.

- I try not to buy things that need to be hung to dry or laid flat to dry; I just don’t have time or space for that.  I do hang the items mentioned above, plus jackets if necessary (most of them tumble dry on low), and church dresses made of rayon or something similar, but that’s about it.

- I don’t buy clothing that can’t be thrown in to the washing machine.  Once I nearly purchased a child’s jacket from Costco that said “spot clean only” – Ha!  Ya, right, with throw up, mud, food, and urine? No thanks - didn't buy that item.  I even wash items that say “hand wash only” on the “hand wash” cycle on our front loading machine and that’s been totally fine.

- I try to take some clothing items out of the dryer while they’re still hot and either fold them or hang them on a hanger, letting them cool flat (or hung up) when I desire for them to look pressed.  I take, for example, my husband’s and son’s button-down shirts and church slacks from the dryer and hang them on a hanger to cool (the slacks are wrinkle-resistant, too).  I don’t even have to iron them then and they still look smooth.  (We like a pressed, creased look, but I just don’t have time for that in this season of life, and my husband has graciously excused me from ironing much while we have so many babies and toddlers *chuckle*.)

- If an item has a small part that really should be pressed for church, but the entire clothing item doesn’t necessarily need to be pressed, then I just put an ironing mat (or a folded-in-half hand towel) on the bathroom counter and use the iron on that collar, or bent-upward chest pocket.  This takes just about 3 minutes and is a quick clean-up.


My Mistake-Saving Strategy


- I keep a tablet of paper and a pen in the laundry room so that I can write down any items in the wash that I need to remember to check at the end of the cycle, to make sure the treated stain came out (so the heat of the dryer doesn’t set a stain), or to hang them instead of putting them into the dryer.  It is easy to be preoccupied, especially for large family moms, and then those infrequent items that shouldn’t go in to the dryer; and once they did go through the dryer the stain was often now permanent from the heat, or the item was damaged because it was supposed to be hung to dry.  Now I check my tablet when moving a load from the washer to the dryer, and there are no more mistakes, and with little effort! *smile*


Last-Minute Cleaning of Children in Public

- I keep a package of baby wipes in the car to use for cleaning kids noses that got messy while we traveled, or for kid’s faces that were missed before we left the house.  Costco’s Kirkland Signature brand wipes are by far my favorite, as they’re a nice texture (not slimy, like some are), they’re a nice thickness so I only need to use one, the whole package is always wet and doesn’t dry out, and they’re inexpensive.  I’ve even taken baby wipes and wiped/scrubbed a toddler’s hair if they’ve gotten food in it. And I still buy wipes now that we don't even have any children in diapers!  *laugh*

- I periodically purchase a box of “Boogie Wipes” (*laugh* - Isn't that an awesome name?!) Which are individually packaged handi-wipes (I get them from Wal-Mart) so that I can put a couple of the little packages in my purse for use on really goopy noses while out and about or if someone gets sticky hands.  I hardly ever need to use them, so they’re not a substantial expense, but when they’re needed, they’re needed and very appreciated (probably by others as well as by my self! *laugh!*).  *smile*  They’re also handy for the children’s fingers that have gotten chocolaty after the free cookie some grocery stores give to children.

- Again, those Tide Pens are a great tool to have in one’s purse to disappear bad or dark stains.


Overall Cleanliness


- I make sure to bathe the children on a regular basis, washing their hair really well (and I do teach them to clean their scalp and make sure it’s not oily or have dandruff), and weekly clip their finger nails and toe nails so that they’re short and cannot collect dirt easily.  This may seem like it is unnecessary to mention but I’m telling you, people do notice when children’s nails are unkempt.  I also git rid of "bed head" and take a squirt bottle and a brush to their hair every morning as part of getting ready for the day, right after brushing teeth.  Children's hair that is really tangled or "bed-head" really doesn't look clean, but just misting their hair with a tiny bit of water and combing it out gets rid of the "bed-head" and they look shiny, smooth, and clean again.  It's good that I know they're clean (most of us know that our kids are generally clean) - but it's important for others to see that our children are clean as well.


It may seem like I’m constantly cleaning the kids, but really I’m not.  With some proactive strategies and intentional cleaning, it’s not too hard to maintain.  Basically I just make sure they are clean every week (or more if they're a teen *wink*) and that their clothes get cleaned well when we do laundry, and sometimes there is a little touching-up to do when we’re out if someone has a cold or a baby is teething and their nose is runny.  But just like most things, if we’re proactive and have a good routine in place, cleanliness isn’t hard – but it is very valuable.

Blessings on your efforts!




You may also enjoy some of my related posts:
"Raising Real Men - Surviving, Teaching, and Appreciating Boys" - a book review.
Living Life on Purpose - "Isn't it exhausting?!"
Managing My Time, Part 1 of 2
Scheduling and Routines: You Can't Have Your Cake and Eat it, Too. Part 1 of 2

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Saturday, May 27, 2017

I Heart Faces Blue


One of my favorite blogs to visit is


They have a challenge every week and I am finally entering!

The theme this week is blue, and one of the first pictures that came to my mind was this picture of Kate playing in Lake Tahoe this summer. It is one of my favorite pictures of her.

If you are a native Californian, you know the slogan:
"Keep Tahoe Blue"

And look how Blue it is:


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